10/1/09: Impromptu Drink

As I've repeated in previous posts, one of the things I really like about this guy is that he is constantly in communication with me. Not in a stalker way ... in a way that lets me know (and convinces my psychotic side) that he's thinking of me and remains interested. So, last night after a random little text I sent to him, he wrote back asking whether I'd like to join him for a drink at the bar where we met. He was coming from something and I was post-gym so I agreed ... one drink couldn't hurt. And I was excited to see him since we are both leaving town soon.

I got to the bar, windswept and red-cheeked, and there he was, nursing a beer, holding down both his stool and one for me. In front of that stool, sitting on the bar, was my drink. My "usual" ... both he and the bartender know this so not sure who suggested it but I think I can safely assume that he mentioned to said bartender that he was meeting me there and Voila! drink poured and ready. He got up to give me a hug and a peck on the cheek and we sat for the next two hours, chatting about life, work, our days and all manner of other things. At one point, after I'd only been there about ten minutes some other chiquita rolled up and loudly said hi, grabbed him, and hugged. Um, I know that at this point, after a mere two weeks of knowing him, I have absolutely no right to stake a claim. But when this chick got all in his business, despite myself and everything I just typed, I got super jealous!!! I immediately wondered whether they'd dated, made out, hooked up, whether she was the long lost love of his life. Then he sheepishly asked her to remind him of her name and, well, there ya go. After she left to sit at her table, he told me that she is CRAZY and he knows waaaay tooo much about her drama. Phew!!

As we talked during the next couple hours, I was in a state of complete and total bliss. I felt very comfortable and close with him, very at ease. He asked me about my past relationships, how long they'd been, how they ended. Typically I feel very uncomfortable talking about this with people given my limited history and recent internet dating odyssey. But with him, I just talked, openly, honestly, about everything unafraid of judgments. And he did not judge.

He paid the tab and we walked home. In front of my building, the amazing make out of second date fame returned. The passion and intensity were back. It was great!!! Mid make-out, he sort of whispered, "I really like hanging out with you." Shivers, chills. I said, "You too." We kissed a bit more then talked about maybe hanging out tonight pre-travels. Key in door, body in bed, smile on face. Sleep was instant.

So, we were supposed to maybe get together tonight. He told me last night that he had a thing with work people and that he would let me know what was going on when he knew. We exchanged several messages throughout the night but, as you can see by the date and time of this posting (Friday evening, 10/2/09, approx. 10:21 p.m.) I am not out with him. This sorta pissed me off a little bit. Then I realized the following: we've only know each other for two weeks and the fact that we won't be able to spend this particular evening together before we both go out of town, though a romantic idea in my mind, probably hasn't even crossed his. Second, and again, I cannot lay claim. Yet. He had other plans and at this point, it's unreasonable for me to expect him to re-arrange an entire evening just because I expressed a desire to see him tonight. I did write him that if we weren't able to hang out pre-travels, that I wished him a great trip. His response: "Oh shit!! Shit!! Totally forgot about that. I'll call you tomorrow."

Now, I'm not really one to play games or lay guilt trips but I couldn't resist sneaking that one past the goaley, ya know? He needs to regret just a little bit that he didn't make more of an effort to see me tonight. My thought: it'll just be sweeter when he gets back.

As for me, I'm feeling good. Psyched about my little weekend away, psyched about SNP, and looking forward to what lies ahead with this one. Goodnight all.