Thank God!!! I mean seriously?? It's been what feels like months since I've had a first date with someone new. I emailed a few times with this fellow and then we very quickly segued to the phone. We talked a couple times prior to making plans and meeting. I've said before that I prefer to sort of fast track the meeting because if you talk too much first, or email too much, you end up sitting across the table from this person having a lot of information about them, yet nothing to talk about. And that sucks. But the phone conversations with this guy were completely great. I think the first time we talked for over two hours, non-stop, very lively and interesting. The second time we talked it was for less time but that was because he called after cancelling our original plans to make new ones for later in the week. Cancelling and altering plans was sort of the theme with this guy ...
At first we were supposed to meet on Monday then his work interfered so we made plans for Thursday. I initially suggested drinks at a favorite local dive-ish bar, and then he wrote that he'd need to eat something so we changed venue to a bar down the street that actually has fairly decent food at decent prices. We were meeting sort of late (again, because of his job) and I'm perpetually early so I arrived, got a table, and waited. During which time, I got a load of texts from PTC ... about nothing in particular. Unfortunately, though they continued throughout my dinner date and since my new phone lights up when the text comes through it created a somewhat awkward situation. I know, I know ... I could have just turned it off but I thought my lack of response would discourage his communication. I was wrong. This lead new guy to comment on how I was getting messages from my other 'boyfriends'. Haha.
Ok, onto dinner ... the conversation was great, the food was great, drinks great. He came in a suit (no tie) because he was coming from work. I instantly felt like I was seriously underdressed, given my jeans, flats, and T-shirt. I wondered when I was getting dressed whether the flat was inappropriate but after seeing how SHORT he was, I felt very positive about my decision. This brings me to Observation #1 about this date. Typically, I'm not down with the shorties. But, sometimes, someone's personality can make them seem not so short. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. This guy was wee. Wee-er than he stated in his description (s typical) but after two seconds of conversation, I didn't even notice it anymore.
We finished dinner, did the payment dance (during which he responded to my offer to pay with "No, it's cheaper than I thought". Ouch ... check minus), and rolled out. I told him previously that I had a big day the next day work wise so we parted ways on the sidewalk with him telling me that he didn't want to keep me late on a school night. Cute. After the great phone convos, the great in person convo, and everything I would at the very least get a handshake or pat on the arm during the goodbye. Nada. No hug, half hug, gentle punch on the shoulder. Nothin'. He said nice to meet you, have a good night and he rushed off. Literally, rushed. So, onto Observation #2. No matter how well I think a date has gone, no matter how many of these dates I go on, there are still things that mystify the shit out of me. Is he interested? Not? Just weird with first date endings? Shy?
This lead me to walk away, scratching my head, and feeling happy about my overall successful first first date in awhile, yet feeling a little disappointed. I had really high hopes for this one given our communications and I just get the feeling I'm not going to hear from him again. We'll see ... I've been surprised before.
Observation #3. And with this I'll close ... I think that participating in this online dating scene has one major negative that I've experienced and has sort of helped me figure out why maybe things haven't worked out. One has a tendency, possibly, to get a little addicted to the first date. In the sense that you look forward to the excitement and newness of meeting a stranger and seeing what happens. While some might find this a stressful experience, I have discovered that at this point, I find it sort of thrilling and my life feels a little emptier when I haven't had a first date in a while. I think there's obviously a possibility that men feel this way, also, even maybe moreso than women. This is a perfect dating situation for men/people who have commitment issues or personality flaws they want to hide. You can get away with revealing very little of yourself on a first date and I personally find it a bit disconcerting when people reveal a lot to me right away.
So, that's that. I'll certainly let you know whether I see this one again. I hope I do. I think he and I could have a lot of fun together as the weather gets warmer and activities become more varied. He's very spry ... I like that.
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